Posted by Gregory M Johnson Morehouse College
on June 21, 2004 at 17:13:24:
In Reply to: How Honest is Too Honest? posted by Gregory M Johnson on June 19, 2004 at 08:37:58:
: : How Honest is Too Honest?
I think the real issue is honesty with ones self. As far as relationships go, if a person does not fulfill the needs that you want, then you should be honest with yourself and say I can�t be with them because���., don�t lie to yourself saying you can hang with their so-called ghetto ways, or bourgeoisie attitude, or high maintenance ways, or simple country ways. Now when you tell them your honest assessment about their obvious �flaws� make sure you include, that it�s your lack of inner growth that won�t allow you to see past these stereotypes and get to know them for all their good or ill, make sure you include it�s your lack of inner strength that won�t allow you to tell the nay-Sayers, haters too shut up that�s my man/woman!!!
I am not really saying lose these superficial ideas, all I�m saying is be honest with you self and Understand this, the more superficial notions & ideas we have on our list of so-call needs, Car, Career, education, status, body type, skin tone etc, that at the end of the day don�t amount to anything meaningful, the more likely 1) we�re not going to find it 2) we miss the real persons that will help us live fulfilled lives.3)we end up bitter because we can find/live up to our idea of perfection