Posted by Gregory M Johnson Morehouse College
on July 21, 2004 at 12:16:27:
In Reply to: Confessions of a Bachelor posted by Gregory M Johnson on July 12, 2004 at 06:15:52:
: : Confessions of a Bachelor
While Bachelorhood, seems like a great place to be. I summit that it is a hollow existence. It�s like a good American Idol audition. You can tell the person can sing, but the song sounds a hell of a lot better and powerful with the music added to it. I�ve personally found, that it�s better to be in a good,uplifting committed relationship. We first must understand that we all have stuff that other people have to deal with(moods, strong opinion hard head ways etc) I have found it�s better to deal with one good person stuff than 10 ok peoples BullSh��! The constant getting to know, while never being brave enough to really get deep into someone while allow someone too get deep into you, leaves a person with a whole bunch of �what ifs�, could have beens and maybes. Bachelorhood actually stunts the your personal growth. By going from one potential relationship to another with out every getting close to the core of that person spirit, and in the process not allowing your self to open up, you stay in this fictitious mind set(for some down right delusional ) that your great, with out flows or baggage. I will say this I have done a lot of great things this year (travel, parties, concert, meeting interesting fascinating people) but it�s not been what it could have been because I could not share it with a special woman.
We also need to make clear that this applies to those self-style bacheloretts always trying to build a man; one as a lover, another as friend to tell how your day went and too gossip with, the another too attend church and family function etc,
Now everything I just said is predicated on the assumption that you�re with someone that enhances your life not tears it down, and knows how to uplift you spiritually and mentally. Being by yourself is very much more preferable than being with someone you have to tell how too love you, and someone who you just argue and fight because of there own toxic soul.